Discovering my dad is not my biological father through a DNA test

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  • Published: 25 February 2019
  • This video is the first in a series on discovering my heritage and the search for my biological father. I decided to create this as an outlet to vent about my experience but also to connect with others in similar circumstances. I would love to hear about your story and I'm happy to answer any questions you might have. Please like and subscribe for more videos cataloging this journey.

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    Rubble Jane

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    DNA Tests mentioned:
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    23andme - 23andme.com

Comments • 3 679

  • Oscar Marroquin
    Oscar Marroquin  1 hours back

    I dont understand why this is such a big deal. Unless your stepdad was a jerk. But if he took care of you why be so sentimental about it?

    • Gunpowder & Vanilla
      Gunpowder & Vanilla  10 hours back

      I believe you said you were coptic egyptian. You might know this by now, but coptics are actually the most native egyptian people there is. They were the earliest peoples we have to have been there, and despite foreign invasions, still are alive today to be the rightful earliest trace of egyptian ancestry we have.

      • Charlie Burns
        Charlie Burns  11 hours back

        Your truth is your right to know. Your mother has let you down, even worse by not admitting her failures to you. It is clear you have challenged your mother's power over you and she cannot admit the truth to you. Your truth brings down your mother's lies; it is very hurtful when your mother can try to deflect her lies. There is clearly something she does not want to face or own up to; she would rather see you in pain. You are a genuine and amazing woman, you need to find a way to heal the hurt and pain you feel. Find out your truth, and remember; who you really are is always in your heart.

        • Gbenro Oduyela
          Gbenro Oduyela  14 hours back

          You should be happy he's not your father

          • Hadeer Sam
            Hadeer Sam  2 days back

            Come to Egypt, I'd like to take you everywhere dear, don't ever cry I know it is a great shock

            • Mariank Gonzalez
              Mariank Gonzalez  2 days back

              Your mom and mine are very alike... you don't have to put up with her lies! You weren't attacking her and you do have the right to know, because without him you would have not existed, half of you physically came from him! You keep going strong because your effort is between you and you, no one else has the right to stop you from what you decide to do!

              I have been told by one of my half brothers on my dad's side the story of my parents, and why he doesn't believe he's my half brother. I am going to also take a DNA test and see where I come from, and I want to meet my biological dad if at all possible!

              • William Fagher
                William Fagher  2 days back

                i havent laughed that much in a long time, so ironic lol

                • Juliana Lupul
                  Juliana Lupul  4 days back

                  A couple months ago my sister and I decided to take a DNA test. Turns out we are half sisters. My other sister decided to take the same test and she’s my half sister also. My 2 sisters are full sisters. I’m the only one with a different dad.
                  .
                  It’s hard knowing that the man you thought was your bio dad isn’t. He passed away when I was 11. I didn’t know him that well but I was so heartbroken. My mom is still convinced that the results are “incorrect”. I’m only 16. I just want to know who my bio dad is.

                  • Juliana Lupul
                    Juliana Lupul  4 days back

                    I’ve already spoken to my mom twice. Still no answer. My mom lies. I began to realize her unpredictable behavior over the past few years. I’m exhausted of these lies. Getting the tables turned on me to look like the bad guy. Just because i want to know who my dad is. Do I look like him? Do I get my curly hair from him? Does he have any family history of health problems? Does he even know I exist? There’s so much to ask.

                • Hannah.georgina Gomez
                  Hannah.georgina Gomez  2 weeks back

                  I want to know if I my dad is my real dad but nvm bye you b......

                  • Anna Bee
                    Anna Bee  2 weeks back

                    Its true you don't need him... im considering having a sperm dona child... if I do that, I wont even know who the father is... blood does not change the soul you have, only the people around can do that... but your mum should be honest with you... if she had an affair you have the right to know the truth... so that you can judge for yourself how you take this knews

                    • YOUTRAVEL Chris Lancaster

                      They did that to me too dear. I was told my dad was my biological father at 12 years old. Dont worry about it: love yourself and God and you will be happy.

                      • __Ria_Honey__
                        __Ria_Honey__  2 weeks back

                        Your story is much more intense then mine but we're kinda in the same boat.

                        I was raised believing I was German and polish. Today at school we went on a site that shows you all your school ID legal information, on my ethnicity section I was labled as this, "white(European, Middle Eastern, Northern African)".
                        This confused me so much and it made me question my parents on what was going on. I know I'm not adopted, I know they're my real parents, but why am I labled as this?
                        And a girl who checked hers was only labled as European so I know it's not migration from Africa.

                        I had wanted to take a 23&me test before this just because I was curious as to what I fully was. I heard that because of immigration there are no full Germans so I got interested. I still haven't taken one yet but my grandmother and mom have talked about it for a Christmas present.

                        You and I have many similar facial features, so that immediately makes me think I have Egyptian blood in me. Maybe not slot due to my blonde hair and blue eyes but still it counts.


                        Boy is this a hard and confusing thing.

                        • Mimi Liebling
                          Mimi Liebling  2 weeks back

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                          • Olivia Frederick
                            Olivia Frederick  2 weeks back

                            This newly found information is a blessing! How great is it to become closer to your heritage where you had no intel before. Turn this circumstance around and look at the positives here ❤️

                            • Snow Island
                              Snow Island  2 weeks back

                              Heart rending. I discovered the same in my forties, though not through a DNA test. I totally understand the confusion which for me is ongoing after several years. Just hearing a few words from someone or reading a few words can turn life upside down. The worst is the feeling of lack of control, as though thoughts and emotions have been hijacked. Coming to terms will be a long work in progress. Sometimes life is hard, brutal, but one thing I have found through this is that the labels we give to ourselves and others, especially those of nationality and race matter less and valuing myself and others as individuals is more real and positive. Now you are not who you thought you were, but even though you have Egyptian genes you don't feel Egyptian, so it's like your roots have been pulled up. But with this new knowledge you are still you. What matters is YOU as an individual, not you as half Egyptian or part this or that. And the same is true of everyone. I really hope that you get more information about your father. Be strong. You seem like a lovely, genuine person and will get through this.

                              • Gail Trickey
                                Gail Trickey  2 weeks back

                                I hope you find your real father and that he has family for you to bond with. You deserve the truth and you deserve to be happy. Please be happy, you are way too beautiful a person to waste on sadness. PS...you rock those Egyptian genes!

                                • Zev V
                                  Zev V  2 weeks back

                                  I just Came across your channel,

                                  Wow this is heartbreaking, I am so sorry for all ur pain And all that you have experienced,

                                  You are fully entitled to know ur background, History and where you come from, ur mom is completely in the wrong here, & seems like a narcissist & as mine Sometimes it’s best to Take a step back and distance urself From them a bit, As a Jew I’d like to say I’m sorry for what you have experienced, You are truly courageous, Smart & very beautiful there too, And as difficult as it may seem I believe it’s a really good thing to finally answers to where you’re coming from,

                                  Smile 🙂 ur on the right path.

                                  • Doğan Aktaş
                                    Doğan Aktaş  2 weeks back

                                    Is there anything people wouldnt do to get some likes?

                                    • Snarge22
                                      Snarge22  3 weeks back

                                      Mothers used to take these transgressions and secrets to the grave. Getting to be less so now.
                                      And sticking some man with the burden of a child not their own with them not knowing about it. How is this not a crime to the man?

                                      • DodgeofW0w
                                        DodgeofW0w  3 weeks back

                                        Haven't found any paternal links on my ancestry dna.

                                        • Vicious Feline
                                          Vicious Feline  3 weeks back

                                          U brave girl xox

                                          • Amanda Grounds
                                            Amanda Grounds  3 weeks back

                                            These tests are not very accurate. Some things of the things I know I am are not on my profile but they put them on my sons. My son gets them from me. They are in my family’s Dna too. Never put one hundred percent into these things. Jews are mixed. He very well could be Jewish.

                                            • Jackie M
                                              Jackie M  3 weeks back

                                              I'm so sorry you're going through this. She's upset you got her caught up but it's so sad and wrong that she kept this from you and led you to believe a shitty person was your father. You do whatever you need to get the answers you want. Just remember to go into it knowing that you've come this far without whoever you've been missing and you will and can survive without them if they don't want a part in your life. On the other hand, maybe he didn't know about you. Maybe he does want to know you. either way, it doesn't make you any less of who you are. i wish I could give you a hug girl. ps. I'm waiting on my test. I don't know who my biological father is either.

                                              • Zanniest
                                                Zanniest  3 weeks back

                                                It's irresponsible and selfish for parents to lie about these kinda of things whatever their circumstances are tell the truth to your children.

                                                My cousins father is not actually their biological father I just learned that info from my mom when I was working already and apprently my cousins still don't know the truth. It's awkward seeing them now, and I'm wondering if my aunt will ever tell them the truth cuz I think they deserve to know the real thing

                                                • DAYBROK3
                                                  DAYBROK3  3 weeks back

                                                  There a difference between a biological father and a dad. I hope you find out both a biological father and a dad.

                                                  • NPC #077451
                                                    NPC #077451  3 weeks back

                                                    Sorry but my english is kinda bad and my writing too.

                                                    But my question is: do you like your dad? (not the biological one) even after the dna results?

                                                    • Corey Chambers
                                                      Corey Chambers  3 weeks back

                                                      Biology is a big factor, but stepping up and parenting is much more important.

                                                      • Bride Colbourne
                                                        Bride Colbourne  3 weeks back

                                                        Who ever gave you you’re combined geneticist sure made a beautiful being🙏🏻😊🌹

                                                        • Bride Colbourne
                                                          Bride Colbourne  3 weeks back

                                                          Its pronounced bar ran

                                                          • amber leigh
                                                            amber leigh  3 weeks back

                                                            Did you get a name?

                                                            • amber leigh
                                                              amber leigh  3 weeks back

                                                              Off topic but being Egyptian is awesome!!

                                                              • Delight Sierra
                                                                Delight Sierra  3 weeks back

                                                                Awwww sweetie, I feel your pain. I just reconnected with my biological father after 40 years of being told he tried to give me away when I was born and he didn't love me - Turns out my mom was jealous because he loved me so much and kicked him out when I was 3 and then told me lies about how he felt about me. She is now angry at me for talking to him.
                                                                I hope you find your dad and I hope he is amazing 💖💖 Don't let your mom get you down.

                                                                • 赤Red
                                                                  赤Red  3 weeks back

                                                                  Maaannnn Egyptian father now thats low

                                                                  • S. E. Z
                                                                    S. E. Z  3 weeks back

                                                                    It's crazy that she would think she could deceive you about this your whole life. I'm Iranian and to me you look conspicuously middle eastern. SOME middle eastern person at some point would have flagged you down and addressed this with you at some point.

                                                                    • Night King
                                                                      Night King  3 weeks back

                                                                      Everybody seems to think they are something else until they take a DNA test!

                                                                      • Z S
                                                                        Z S  3 weeks back

                                                                        You only hear from the people who are surprised by what they find. A lot of people are just like "Oh. That's what I thought" and move on because there's no exciting story to tell.

                                                                    • Model your kiss
                                                                      Model your kiss  3 weeks back

                                                                      Humm you should be happy . Your no good father isn't your daddy. And I see u crying but I see no 😢. == I'm 60 and don't no where my real dad is..my hold life was a lie

                                                                      • tiluriso
                                                                        tiluriso  3 weeks back

                                                                        First of, let me say I feel for you, I'm sorry to hear your pain and disappointment. Once I saw 50% 'Middle East' and that your research matched it w/ 'Egyptian', i thought your biological dad might have been an Egyptian Coptic Christian, part of their heritage is from Early Christians who migrated from Lebanon/Syria to Egypt, bringing early Christianity from the Levant to North Africa. Can you trace them to see if that is the case? BTW, I swear I wrote the aforementioned sentence before hearing the confirmation you give @ 10:40 - once you said the Middle Eastern matches were 'Egyptian' I immediately thought 'Coptic Christian'. In any event, you are a beautiful woman. Be proud of your beautiful heritage. All the best, peace.

                                                                        • Veronica Higgins
                                                                          Veronica Higgins  3 weeks back

                                                                          When I went through a family issue concerning biological father my mother was the same, she did not want to dig up the past as it was a very difficult time back then for her...though it didn’t change my own turmoil or comfort me in my own identity. I’m sorry your mother did not react favourably 😢❤️

                                                                          • Mickael Prevost
                                                                            Mickael Prevost  3 weeks back

                                                                            You are very beautiful and Egypt is a beautiful country, you can be proud and be strong!

                                                                            • Baskan Aksener
                                                                              Baskan Aksener  3 weeks back

                                                                              you didnt make wrong thing,it is normal to be curious,god bless you

                                                                              • Baskan Aksener
                                                                                Baskan Aksener  3 weeks back

                                                                                omg please dont cry,😥mixing genes gives more health,you look so healthy and pretty☺️☺️

                                                                                • Andrew
                                                                                  Andrew  3 weeks back

                                                                                  Must have been quite a jolt for all concerned. Whatever your DNA mix is, it has produced one gorgeous young woman. Keep well and positive. 🙏

                                                                                  • Passport Overused
                                                                                    Passport Overused  3 weeks back

                                                                                    Just have to say, you are a very strong woman. I wish i could have hugged you. ...No one deserved what you have been through. Your father's culture is very interesting. I was in Egypt a few years back. That community is amazing and full awesome stories. truly you wish you the best. :) hopefully get to see you experience that community. My prayers to you

                                                                                    • sun KO
                                                                                      sun KO  3 weeks back

                                                                                      Makes me stronger in my belief that having relationships out of marriage leads to havoc of this kind for the children involved.

                                                                                      • KTMD
                                                                                        KTMD  3 weeks back

                                                                                        #truth. And also, very sad. 😥

                                                                                    • G&H
                                                                                      G&H  3 weeks back

                                                                                      Egyptian gang 🥰🥰

                                                                                      • Donna
                                                                                        Donna  3 weeks back

                                                                                        Egypt. So you North Africa. At least half

                                                                                        • john smith
                                                                                          john smith  3 weeks back

                                                                                          i found out my dad isnt my dad through 23andme, whole other family was just across town the whole time.

                                                                                          • moonxshakti
                                                                                            moonxshakti  3 weeks back

                                                                                            There is a Facebook group called npe, not parent expected, over a hundred and fifty thousand last I heard of people getting help and support from other people in similar situations

                                                                                        • Ezra
                                                                                          Ezra  3 weeks back

                                                                                          Its called Palestine 🇵🇸 and not Israel 😑