Discovering my dad is not my biological father through a DNA test

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  • Published: 25 February 2019
  • This video is the first in a series on discovering my heritage and the search for my biological father. I decided to create this as an outlet to vent about my experience but also to connect with others in similar circumstances. I would love to hear about your story and I'm happy to answer any questions you might have. Please like and subscribe for more videos cataloging this journey.

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    Rubble Jane

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    DNA Tests mentioned:
    Ancestry DNA - ancestryDNA.com
    23andme - 23andme.com

Comments • 2 510

  • Goldena Medina
    Goldena Medina  4 minutes back

    Maybe your mother was raped and she did not want to tell you that you are a product of rape. She decided not to abort you.
    Kiss your mother and give her a hug.

    • ringtune ringtune
      ringtune ringtune  9 minutes back

      If you are jewish then it will come up ashkenasi jewish from Europe so the Israel part is primarily arab or the old ancient people that is the Israel people that lived in that area. But its sad that you came through this period of time but think about all the great people that comes from your ancestry your ancestry comes from a great history of soliders and many good people. Really good video and KEEP UP YOU ARE STRONG.

      • Fortnite Superman
        Fortnite Superman  3 hours back

        fart poop eat poopy poop yummy smelly

        • vanillacarnivore
          vanillacarnivore  4 hours back

          Very sad story. I also feel sad for the man who you thought was your father. He probably didn't even know either. Your mom did a lot of damage to his family for having him believed he had conceived another child with another woman. I am not saying he is all innocent but that is messed up. I hope you find closure and find happiness in the search of your biological dad. Best wishes.

          • Emily lacii
            Emily lacii  5 hours back

            Yo bro i love the middle east I'm from america but my ma and pa speak Arabic, alcoholic and English ETC. yah i just really like any place the middle east is lit the people treat you like family and always helped me with the little amount of Arabic i speak ( but i can understand) 100% black can i get an AMEN1

            • elise258251
              elise258251  5 hours back

              Maybe your Mom didn't think there was another possibility, and at this point doesn't remember his name. Is it also possible that the father you thought was your father was mislead about his past DNA? These are the questions that came to my mind while watching this.

              • Jennifer Wesbecher
                Jennifer Wesbecher  5 hours back

                Prayers for peace with your situation. I too have a similar story. It's confusing looking in the mirror and seeing the face of someone who I had no idea was my father. The older generation had the choice to hide or reveal the truth, but now as adults we now have the choice how we want to handle our DNA results. I choose to be honest about who I am, I choose not to keep secrets, while being as respectful as possible to the older generation.

                • Miss Understood
                  Miss Understood  7 hours back

                  As an ethnic Jew, I’m so sorry you felt like you lost a piece of your Jewish identity. I struggled with identity my whole life till I found my biological family. (I am adopted.) Learn who you are, what you are, and what ancestors run through your blood. Remember that regardless of who your father is, family is, or what is in your blood you are only who you decide to be. If you are a follower of Y’shua, your identity is found in Him. We have a right to search into our families and ancestry, especially when our parents lie to us our whole lives. Shalom 🖤

                  • Tyler Beckett
                    Tyler Beckett  8 hours back

                    So did she cheat probably why she don't wanna talk about it soryy but you deserve the truth it may be in the past buts that's how you came to be

                    • Pink Princess
                      Pink Princess  11 hours back

                      Everyone keeps saying such bad things about your mum but maybe she kept your biological father a secret to protect you from the truth. I went through something really similar my mum forbade me from getting in contact with my biological father but I went behind her back and met with him... he constantly let me down each time I met with him he even broke my heart twice because I realized that no matter what him he is always going to come first and he could never love me. Lucky thing that my stepfather loved me as his own and gave me all the things that a daughter could ever want.

                      • Cromcquay McQuay
                        Cromcquay McQuay  11 hours back

                        There are many FB support groups for NPE's

                        • Al Cofiño
                          Al Cofiño  12 hours back

                          God Bless you... that sure is some discovery on your part.... thank you for having the courage to share...

                          • Kadath9969
                            Kadath9969  13 hours back

                            You are gorgeous & you have a right to know who your bio-family and who your bio-father is. So sorry for your heartbreak/heartache.

                            • brazilianbirder
                              brazilianbirder  17 hours back

                              I cried watching your video. Currently going through something like this. Sending my love gorgeous girl. x

                              • Joseph Masangkay
                                Joseph Masangkay  1 days back

                                I totally understand because my mom was also a single mother but she only kept a few secrets about my dad,she was open about who my dad was but when i asked about why their relationship ended she got angry and said to never ask her this again.. i still never see my dad whole my life now im 15 i bave up hope and became more independet

                                • Jeremiah Jmonster
                                  Jeremiah Jmonster  1 days back

                                  Your A Beautiful Women

                                  • Princess
                                    Princess  2 days back

                                    Your mother gave you life be grateful for that stop complaining it doesn't matter who your father is you know who your mother is and if it wasn't for her you wouldn't be here complaining on a YouTube video show some respect she carried you for 9 months and had to deal with you for god knows how many years 🤬

                                    • Elle Diaz
                                      Elle Diaz  4 hours back

                                      Her mother let her believe that another man was her father. She didn’t tell her daughter about herself, which she has every right to know.

                                  • Fantastic Girl!
                                    Fantastic Girl!  2 days back

                                    Hi, u are so pretty lady, that I can see u louk like Algerian or north African beauty.

                                    • CreatorNite
                                      CreatorNite  2 days back

                                      When you cried it almost made me cry...i hope you are feeling better 😢😢

                                      • Mitch Tru
                                        Mitch Tru  2 days back

                                        I hope you find peace. Sending hugs.

                                        • Sultanah xz.
                                          Sultanah xz.  2 days back

                                          اساسا من شكلك يحوي انك من الشرق الأوسط 🙂

                                          • Lawrence Sally
                                            Lawrence Sally  2 days back

                                            This video proves why MGTOW is so very important!

                                            • Lawrence Sally
                                              Lawrence Sally  7 hours back

                                              @Yeefetus
                                              Blah Blah Blah!!!! So what and why should I care about you???? Oh, I don't!!!!

                                            • YeetusThatFetus
                                              YeetusThatFetus  8 hours back

                                              Alright incel

                                          • kitty pirate
                                            kitty pirate  2 days back

                                            Thank you for doing this, My name is Elaine stover and I'm on a Journey of finding out what I am and who is my father I did not now any thing about ancestry are 23 and me, but your video clarified some of the things that I needed to know about both of those products. The emotion that you shared is preparing me for what I will discover and say and both results. And again thank you.

                                            • health nut
                                              health nut  2 days back

                                              All this means is ur actual birth mom is a slut n didn't know who she slept w. Rofl ol. Just 3:17 into this but not even worry watching the rest of it. Lolroflmfao rolling eyes like crazy

                                              • Christine Rogers
                                                Christine Rogers  3 days back

                                                I am so sorry that you have been lied to. I come from a narcissistic and complicated upbringing as well. Lies and abuse that spans generations. I wish you success in meeting relations who can tell you more about the culture your father came from and specific family history as well. You have a rich heritage to reserach and learn and grow with. I wish you healing and joy. Thank you for sharing such a difficult story, you are helping others! Blessings!

                                                • AnnaBean
                                                  AnnaBean  3 days back

                                                  Sometimes people hide things from their children to protect them, my best friend never knew her father and her mother would never tell her but while staying overnight i over heard her mom on the phone talking about how my friend was conceived through rape. and her mom still to this day never told her about her father and i don’t think she ever will. people always have reasons for hiding or lying. i hope your journey ends well :(

                                                  • Ruscha T
                                                    Ruscha T  3 days back

                                                    Hi there, I am experiencing the same sadness. Through a DNA test and consideration of my complexion I believe a different man is my father, 10+ years after my dad stopped caring for me. It’s so painful. It’s not your fault at all. I wish you all the love and strength and we will get through

                                                    • Arjay Martin
                                                      Arjay Martin  3 days back

                                                      What a terrible mum

                                                      • Arjay Martin
                                                        Arjay Martin  3 days back

                                                        sounds like DNA testing is garbage from the two tests saying different things.

                                                        • osama Arafa
                                                          osama Arafa  3 days back

                                                          I am Canadian Egyptian and when I saw you are 50% Middle Eastern I thought maybe you are Tunisian but when you said Egyptian coptic then I started to see more of Egyptian's features from your face and your emotional reaction about your DNA is totally Egyptian since we are very emotional people .

                                                          • ShaolinDreams
                                                            ShaolinDreams  3 days back

                                                            Guessing ... Southern Europe with some Mediterranean or Middle East. This reminds me of the time i found out i was half Greek at 30 years of age.. World just spun around. Your husband is a lucky guy i hope you have many beautiful children.

                                                            • Ame
                                                              Ame  3 days back

                                                              I feel like our mothers might be related. 🤦🏼‍♀️

                                                              • Melissa Charles
                                                                Melissa Charles  4 days back

                                                                ❤️❤️❤️

                                                                • Denise Debenedictis
                                                                  Denise Debenedictis  4 days back

                                                                  :'(

                                                                  • Gracie Noel Designs
                                                                    Gracie Noel Designs  4 days back

                                                                    Your story is almost exactly the same as mine....

                                                                    And I know this comment will probably get lost in the thousands of comments but I am also going through this almost identical situation right this very moment and my mind is running all over the place and I googled “my dad is not my actual dad” and your video came up....

                                                                    My whole life I was told that both of my parents were adopted, so I knew no one genetically beyond my parents. I was also told my father had cheated on my mother and that’s why they weren’t together anymore. My mom was also a single mother and raised me on her own. I didn’t have a father listed on my birth certificate because I always thought my mom didn’t want my father to have parental rights because he cheated on her.

                                                                    Basically my father too was absent for most of my life, in and out. We never really were close, he never treated me badly just was very MIA.

                                                                    Fast forward to 2011, a man reached out to me on social media and claimed to be my biological father. He said he and my mom were living together around the time that I was born and he thought he may be my father.

                                                                    Of course I asked my mother what this guy was talking about and she simply said that he was crazy and her “stalker”. So I figured he was trying to use me to get to her so I blocked him on social media.

                                                                    Fast forward again to 2 years ago, I as gifted a 23 and me DNA kit and a few months ago connected with a woman who was biologically my mothers cousin. Because my mom was adopted I thought it would be interesting to buy my mom a kit and verify that this was in fact my moms cousin.

                                                                    So we did just that and after my mom got her results... I jokingly said to her today “I should get my dad a kit for Father’s Day now” and she said nonchalantly back “oh so you can find out he’s not actually your father” and I was like ummm what? And she said “we talked about this”.

                                                                    I rush to 23 and me and notice that it now breaks down the results by mother and father side of the family, and on my fathers side some of the last names match the man that reached out to me on social media back in 2011.

                                                                    Basically my heart is shattered and I feel devastated that my mother lied to me my whole life. I have so many questions as to why she would keep me around if the guy that impregnated her was actually crazy, why she would lie and say that another man was actually my father.

                                                                    It just makes me wonder, does my dad actually know he’s not actually my dad, is he lying too and that why he was so distant my whole life? I have so many questions that I don’t even know how to bring up to my mother.

                                                                    I know it shouldn’t change anything, my dad and I weren’t even close... but it does because I am super close with my mom and she was the one person I could trust to tell me the truth and she kept this huge secret from me for my whole life. I’m almost 30 years old finding out who my dad really is...

                                                                    This all happened today and like I said this comment will probably get lost and no one will read it but I just needed to tell my story somewhere.

                                                                    Thanks to anyone that actually took the time to read this, I just needed to vent, also thank you for sharing your story. You are a beautiful woman and I’m glad I’m not the only person going through something like this, it’s helping me not feel so alone. Thank you.

                                                                    • florence cavallaro
                                                                      florence cavallaro  4 days back

                                                                      i feel so bad for you////

                                                                      • Zoraida Catherine Navarro

                                                                        Also she may have lied to your real biological dad and he may have tried to look for you but the psychos would rather live their lies than care about the consequences for their children. You don't need hers or anybody's permission to go look your dad up. Regardless of what the media tells you I know and have visited Egypt many times and they are wonderful people regardless of whether they're Muslim or Christian's. You deserve to know where you came from

                                                                        • anjeanettes channel
                                                                          anjeanettes channel  4 days back

                                                                          You have such an adventure ahead of you, I wish you the best! You really are stunning, and certainly have some classic Egyptian features! Please keep us updated❤️

                                                                          • Zoraida Catherine Navarro

                                                                            Look up this mental illness called malignant narcissism. Your mother is a malignant narcissist and you and everyone around her or malignant narcissistic abuse survivors. Learn about this before you go looking for your Egyptian relatives so that you will understand that she probably pushed your real dad away. Good luck in your journey

                                                                            • Zoraida Catherine Navarro
                                                                              Zoraida Catherine Navarro  4 days back

                                                                              You and every one around her are malignant abuse survivors.She is a pathological liar and has fabricated a wonderful façade of who she is, but digging deeper and you'll realize she's a monster.

                                                                          • Zyad ullah
                                                                            Zyad ullah  5 days back

                                                                            Ehyption 😂😂🤣😂 O Man . You are 100% right to cry.

                                                                            • Elsa C
                                                                              Elsa C  5 days back

                                                                              Trigger warning! This sounds like first world problems. Try being adopted and not knowing anything about your background or heritage. You are so much luckier than you believe . Your mother found a man who was not your biological father to love you, raise you, care for you. That being said...your mother owes you an explanation, but you’re an adult and need to realize that the person you are is up to you. As an adopted person, I always have to imagine that I may have been a product of rape. That’ll give you something to be devastated over.

                                                                              • Kenzy Abed
                                                                                Kenzy Abed  5 days back

                                                                                There was a huge Jewish community in Egypt around 50 years ago. After the war between Egypt and Israel, many Jewish Egyptians either moved away or converted to Christianity or Islam. Your Jewish father could still be of Egyptian heritage.

                                                                                • Tarah Collins
                                                                                  Tarah Collins  5 days back

                                                                                  As a mother....I cannot IMAGINE getting angry at my child...I would be more upset at myself for not telling them. If he was a bad man or not, she was wrong for keeping it from you and making it about her. I'm sorry, I know she's your mother, but...she's wrong. We don't know her past, but even so, don't do that. Do not make your child feel bad for a mistake YOU as a mother made.
                                                                                  I am appalled..and I am SO sorry. 💚💚💚 it is a little exciting to kinda have a new life you ever knew about though, I would imagine. I haven't watched the update videos but I'm about to. Much love

                                                                                  • MUSTAFA GAMER
                                                                                    MUSTAFA GAMER  5 days back

                                                                                    You look like Arabs and specifically Jordanians and Egyptians do not worry Arabs have a great history

                                                                                    • Incog Nito
                                                                                      Incog Nito  6 days back

                                                                                      You are SO BRAVE! I wouldn’t be able to do what you are doing, I think... I agree with a comment below: the world is a better place because you are here. Your mom & dad meeting is how you got here, so be happy, you are SUCH A BEAUTIFUL young lady. I would be like a granny to you & I have ALWAYS LOVED VERY DARK EYES, WOW! YOUR EYES ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!
                                                                                      Now, about your mom: She doesn’t OWN you. Children are A GIFT from God that they are to raise & teach how to be good citizens on this earth, then they leave “the nest” & live their own lives as God intended. What she doesn’t realize is this: That IS NOT the past, IT IS NOW! You ARE ALIVE, THIS IS YOUR LIFE & your mom OWES YOU THE INFO ABOUT YOUR DAD. If you never came to be alive on this earth, then it might have been “her past” but just because you are here alive, it is your “current life.” You have a husband, that would be your fathers son in law. If you have children, those would be your fathers grand children. No one person has the God given RIGHT to deny access to any other person contract with other family, relatives. If your mom thinks this way, she is very sick & the more contact YOU have with her, the more you will suffer. If you could find another person who could talk to her, or someone who could befriend her & eventually ask & get what info they can from her, that might work better than you doing it. She might be afraid of further contact with him. Did you ever think it might have been he just couldn’t deal with how she is & also he was not able to care for a baby. He may not have had family members here who would help. It’s a “possibility” to consider. I totally get what you’re dealing with, my mom was similar. She thought she could out think everyone else, & she thought more of herself & less of others....so I really know how you feel. I wish I could help you....

                                                                                      • Commander Biff
                                                                                        Commander Biff  6 days back

                                                                                        Hi,
                                                                                        I am very sorry about your mother lying to you for your entire. Remember that nobody else is but you.
                                                                                        I highly recommend uploading your raw data to gedmatch.com and it’ll tell you which populations you are closest to. You may only be 50% Egyptian, but you are 100% beautiful!

                                                                                        • xm377Moyocoyatzin
                                                                                          xm377Moyocoyatzin  1 weeks back

                                                                                          Why is it important that you find your father? Like you said he was never a part in your life, not even the man you thought was your father. Why are you this emotional over a man you didn't even know existed and whom you know nothing about?

                                                                                          • Lynn Taylor Buccafuri
                                                                                            Lynn Taylor Buccafuri  1 weeks back

                                                                                            I have been through the same situation! My mother allowed my father to raise me with my 3 older sisters, from 18 months old until he passed away when I was 22. She bad mouthed him my whole life, even after he passed away. When i was about 30-31 years old she told my oldest sister she had an affair and that I probably wasn’t my fathers biological daughter. Then a month later she lied to me when confronted and said oh no he is your father. Another 20 years passes, i take 3 dna tests only to find out she lied to my face. I believed I was portuguese, i am actually Italian. The man who was my father passed away 2 years prior to my learning the truth. Angry, i am beyond angry. I love and respect my father even more now that i know he loved me regardless of being aware that he wasn’t my biological father.