Discovering my dad is not my biological father through a DNA test

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  • Published: 25 February 2019
  • This video is the first in a series on discovering my heritage and the search for my biological father. I decided to create this as an outlet to vent about my experience but also to connect with others in similar circumstances. I would love to hear about your story and I'm happy to answer any questions you might have. Please like and subscribe for more videos cataloging this journey.

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    Rubble Jane

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    DNA Tests mentioned:
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    23andme - 23andme.com

Comments • 3 471

  • RobertoEmilioRomero
    RobertoEmilioRomero  4 hours back

    You are so beautiful.

    • Talia Morstead
      Talia Morstead  6 hours back

      The Centre for Health and Coping Studies at the University of British Columbia is seeking individuals to participate in a study on the impact of genetic testing: https://delongis.psych.ubc.ca/ubc-genetic-connections-study/ Click the link if you are interested in learning more about the study!

      • Noelle Irina
        Noelle Irina  11 hours back

        Often mothers hide this sort of thing because the father is just not worth knowing their child. They do it to protect their kids. Often the father simply abandons their "family". Finding your father and his family is risky and can be a very big disappointment. Don't expect too much from him

        • Thorgrim
          Thorgrim  12 hours back

          You are a very brave young lady. It is not easy confronting this type of issue. Especially in a sharing way on a public forum. There is so much pain in those beautiful eyes. I am sure that your husband and most of us watching this video would love to somehow take away all of the pain you have deep inside. We cannot control who our biological parents are or what kind of character they possess. Unfortunately your mother seems to be one of those lost souls searching for love and she made some serious mistake. Most mistakes come with consequences! Even though she is cold to your dilemma, I would be very surprised if she did not hold some deep feelings of regret for these mistakes. It apparently is so hurtful for her to confront that she is unwilling to address your concerns. However, as an adult and your mother she should man up (so to speak) and deal with the issue. This would entail admitting her responsibility and weaknesses that were involved with this bad decision, made years ago! She should be able to see the pain and sorrow she has caused you. It is only natural for a child to want to know who they are! We are all human and most of us make mistakes in life, but responsibility to your children should be the one your mother as a parent should hold most dear!
          On the positive side, the Egyptian people and culture is rich and incredibly fascinating, with a long history. So much to learn and discover. You can be proud of your new heritage. It is one of the greatest the world has ever seen! If you are a Christian, and your bio father is a Coptic Christian it would mean you are connected with perhaps the oldest Christian heritage existing. Most scholars think that Jesus grew up in Egypt and thus influenced the founding of the Coptic Church in Egypt. And if I do say so myself, your mixed Egyptian and European heritage has been very generous to you. You are a stunningly beautiful young woman. Many women would kill for your gorgeous black hair and exotic appearance. I as well am deeply involved in discovering my heritage and have discovered that we are all truly related at some point in the past.
          We only have the one life we are given to live so take solace in what you have, not sorrow in what you don't have.
          Be at peace and find your bliss!

          • Der Kolben
            Der Kolben  19 hours back

            Lol
            Your "dad" is a cuck

            • DeZigning Life
              DeZigning Life  2 days back

              I'm so sorry!! I remember the time I was told my father was not my father.. I felt like a Mirror being shattered.. My entire identity was gone.. I felt like I didn't belong to my siblings. I didn't belong anywhere.. My biological father has passed away but wanted nothing to do with me.. He was around while I was growing up, but I didn't know he was my dad... His kids still deny me because they don't want to hurt their mother.. I'm sorry for your pain.. You keep searching for your answers.. HER secret is not YOUR secret.. My mom is very mortified by "our" secret.. well not my issue.. it's hers.. My issue is that I want family.. :)

              • Amirreza Taheri
                Amirreza Taheri  2 days back

                You are realy lucky...because you discovered your mama was lying to you up to now.

                • Amirreza Taheri
                  Amirreza Taheri  2 days back

                  Oh that is not good. Indeed it is not your fault but it's realy bad to know your mother made love with somebody without marrage and they made a baby..! Look i realy like you i am also middle eastern half Kurd half Turk(I live in Iran) but remember this it doesn't realy matters to you. You are cool.don't be sad and try to not effect your DNA results in your life...I wish you all best...
                  Amir

                  • Timoteo Luna
                    Timoteo Luna  2 days back

                    You shouldn't be upset so soon Jewish people are Middle Eastern

                    • Amanda Edgar
                      Amanda Edgar  2 days back

                      I took 23 & Me about three years ago and found out the same thing. Unfortunately, my mother passed away when I was 28 so I couldn't ask her those hard questions. The man who I thought was my father (never really knew him and had brief relationships with him as well) is not. Overall he was never involved in my life. I can relate to how you feel. I have half sisters, we look nothing alike. I too found out that I'm half middle eastern. Particularly Iranian. I had no idea my entire life. I was shocked and confused and sad. I knew nothing about the culture and I felt robbed of so much. My mom's side is all European. I always felt out of place and confused as a child. I had unique features that didn't make sense to me. I just sent off an ancestry test in hopes of learning even more. If you ever want to talk, I would love to share our stories. God Bless you. You are a beautiful Egyptian woman ♥️

                      • Dani Jameson
                        Dani Jameson  2 days back

                        Girl i know how you feel. When i turned 18 my mum and dad sat me down and told me he wasn't my real dad. Honestly, hes my dad to me and the fact i didnt even know i had a different dad says a lot. I've never met him and im 24 now

                        • xerke
                          xerke  2 days back

                          Please start a patreon! We will donate so you can buy a bra ✍🏾

                          • Johnathon Broad
                            Johnathon Broad  2 days back

                            Excuse me for asking, but; Why did the first man who you believed was your father, also believe you were his daughter?
                            I have little to no contact with my children - 5000 miles away - so I will follow your story in the hope that you find your Father, as I hope, one day, my children will find me.
                            A bit of fatherly advice ( as a world traveler): Find your Egyptian heritage. You won't be disappointed.

                            • hejdåå
                              hejdåå  3 days back

                              I have a somalian mother and somalian father, i find out that i was 33 procent norweigan, and i live in sweden now, and i really i wanna know where the 33 procent norweigan came from

                              • hejdåå
                                hejdåå  3 days back

                                ofc i will subrcibe, i hope you find you father :) i wish you good luck, you are very beautiful woman. you are smart and cute. you deserve the truth and i hope again you find you father,

                                • Abdalla Hassan
                                  Abdalla Hassan  3 days back

                                  Its really disappointing to wakeup one day and find yourself Egyptian )) hi from Egypt!!

                                  • Melissa Justice -Todd
                                    Melissa Justice -Todd  3 days back

                                    I had a rough childhood, filled with psychological abuse that continued into my adulthood. My 1st bully was my dad. He always treated my younger sister better than me. Just one of many examples; he used to put me down and tell me how "I am pretty, but not that pretty" but would pour all the compliments on my sister, without any "buts" involved. Well at 13, they admitted that he was not my biological father. And suddenly, it all made sense. Unfortunately, it began a downward spiral that didn't stop until my 30's. I've just in the last few years been able to start moving forward again. Unfortunately my biological dad died before I had a chance to meet him.

                                    • ParaTruth
                                      ParaTruth  3 days back

                                      You are taking a test as a absolut proof of your ancestry. You should consider, that this tests (all of them Myheritage, ancestry 23nme etc) are only as good, as the database they use to estimate your ancestry. Yes its an estimation. a statistical playaround and should be seen as that. The confidence of this tests are probably less then 50%. The only significant and certain thing they can estimate is the continent of your ancestrys. Think about it, when you confront your mom with so called facts. Whatever her story is behind this is, i dont think you can use this so called DNA test to denounce her. Try to find another base to talk to her about your ancestry. Much love and strengh.

                                      • Peng
                                        Peng  3 days back

                                        Is there not information from the dna company regarding how closely related you are to these Egyptian ‘relatives’ could be that they don’t have records of other that are from other countries since they never took the test. So you may be missing a lot of information and much closer relatives Egypt has a lot of historical ties with the Jewish

                                        • Holly Bridges
                                          Holly Bridges  3 days back

                                          50 years ago, you could keep secrets like this. I'd be so angry at my mom for lying to me.

                                          • FM 1
                                            FM 1  3 days back

                                            Also, every Egyptian I ever met thru a family member who had lived there for a short while back in the late 80’s, they were all so warm, so nice. They were a combination of Coptic Christians and Egyptian Jews. All very kind to us.

                                            • FM 1
                                              FM 1  3 days back

                                              Egyptian was a great culture and ruler of the world in its day. He can be Egyptian Jewish. That is very common.
                                              The actor that played Freddie Mercury in a Bohemian Rhapsody is Egyptian. Look up the photo of a very breathtaking beauty, Egyptian Princess Fawzia Fuad who died recently in 2013. Check out actor Omar Sharif when young, he played “ Yuri “ in the epic 1965 film Dr Zhivago. He was Egyptian. Look at the statue of Queen Nefertiti from the ancient days, Cleopatra too! There is so much interesting history to delve into!
                                              You are a truly beautiful young woman. That is not going to change. EVER. I see it as exotic.
                                              However, I am not trying to diminish how you feel, but merely seeing the positive in it all as an outsider.

                                              • Eugene Flannigan
                                                Eugene Flannigan  3 days back

                                                Thanks for sharing your story with us. Your a strong woman... Listen had me in tears. :-(

                                                • IsalithLaLame
                                                  IsalithLaLame  4 days back

                                                  A friend had a woman in her 20's come to her uncle and telling him she was his daughter. Her uncle it a bit shitty, but the rest of the family her new half siblings, cousins and relatives really took her in, her mom just died, and she did not have relatives left. Now a few years later, that girl is happily and fully part of the family, my friend is her cousin and they all get along really well ! :)
                                                  If you want to learn and why not meet your biological father, go for it. Worse case scenario : you don't click, you're just strangers and you both go on with your life nowing more. Best case scenario, you get more family.

                                                  • hatsuki kook
                                                    hatsuki kook  4 days back

                                                    👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎🖓🖓🖓🖓🖓

                                                    • hatsuki kook
                                                      hatsuki kook  4 days back

                                                      😑😑😑😑😑😑

                                                      • Anne Wagner
                                                        Anne Wagner  4 days back

                                                        I scored 77% of a certain heritage from a region my whole family always claimed to have 0 relations to and no one wants to tell me where those 77% come from, so I feel so lost... 77% you cannot ignore.

                                                        • Cami Mo
                                                          Cami Mo  4 days back

                                                          The way you describe your mother is very similar to mine. She raised my three sisters and I as a single mother, and even when she married my step-father she wouldn't let him raise us. Growing up, I lived split times with my father and mother/step-dad until my biological father was arrested and moved away. My mother always turns situations around to make herself the victim, and cannot emphasize with how my sisters and I feel. Reach out to those who you trust. I know how lonely it can feel sometimes. Take some space if you need it, don't feel obligated to be close with someone who is hurting you. Sending you love and compassion <3

                                                          • Leafitup
                                                            Leafitup  5 days back

                                                            All the Coptic Christians I've ever met have been so kind hearted and lovely

                                                            • OfficialEpitomi
                                                              OfficialEpitomi  5 days back

                                                              Going through the same thing. Except, my mother isn’t really my mother either. The parents who raised me lie about my entire existence. And the man who I am almost a twin to was supposedly the brother of the man who raised me and he mysteriously died before I was born. I look NOTHING like my “siblings” besides hints of a close relative which makes sense if their father is the actually brother of my own. I did the same thing as you, told my “mother” I took a DNA test and she reacted in the same exact manner. Nervous, surprised, uneasy and suspicious. A cousin of mine who I was starting a family project with on AncestryDNA website to build a Family Tree had sent me a photo of a mysterious woman who looks like she spat me out herself. When I looked into the eyes of the woman in that photo something inside me sparked, I couldn’t explain it, it was this deep feeling inside my heart. So questioned about her, my cousin didn’t know because she was given the photo by another family member. So I went to her (the one who sent it to the other) and she didn’t know her name 🤨🧐 (?What?) So, I sent it to “my mom” and asked her and she claimed it was her Aunt, a woman who was murdered by poisoning. So, the two people in the world I look most like mysteriously died under weird and tragic circumstances upon my not so easy and, tragic I’m it’s own, entrance into this world. (I was born dying from something that was in my mom’s system from what I was told, but, who knows at this point) Then, the person she said it was didn’t match what the other people me and my cousin asked said she was. That’s when I really starting digging, because they were all acting out of pocket and strange. I started even creating collage photos with me and others and to my dearest surprise, after all these years, I never realized just how much I do NOT look like my immediate family. I look nothing like the man who I’ve known as my dad and like you, he was HORRIBLE to me. Very abusive, physically and mentally. And when I receive my results, they didn’t match his. And to make it even more interesting, I am more European than he is my like 4% and the woman who is supposedly my mom isn’t even close to neither of our European percentages. But also, my African bloodlines are different from his as well. Mine being majority Congolese, Ghanaian, Khoisan, and eastern & him being damn near ALL Nigerian. Even his European results were different from mine. Everyone has continued to lie to me even with my results and refuse to give me a truth that anyone is this world deserves. They selfishly have still denied me my truths and now I feel so alone and hopeless that I am picking up everything and I’m a few months leaving my country for good with no intentions on ever coming back, ever. Funny thing is, the family nicknamed me after the man I look like (my “father’s brother) and that’s the name I go by only to family and it never occurred to me to wonder why. Only to except that they said that I “reminded them of him so much” and that’s all.

                                                              • mohamed ahmed
                                                                mohamed ahmed  5 days back

                                                                You should visit Egypt.

                                                                • V J
                                                                  V J  6 days back

                                                                  Were we raised by the same woman???
                                                                  I've broken off contact with the fam who raised me, too much abuse and toxicity there, and later took a DNA test.... Ethnicity-wise, I'm about what I expected, but as someone who is half Puerto-Rican (on the paternal side), with 900+ Puerto Rican relatives on 23andme... My last name seems rather sparse. My mother's ex-boyfriend, however, has a last name I'm seeing a whole lot of results for.

                                                                  Not sure how to proceed, or if I even should. The man has a whole family of his own now. It might be better all-around if we never know for sure. I love my life as it is, and am hesitant to take a step back towards the drama.

                                                                  • Mason Scimone
                                                                    Mason Scimone  6 days back

                                                                    Thank you for sharing. I just recently discovered a cousin (35-40) and he found his dad, my uncle (72). Through an ancestry's dna test. Good luck discovering your heritage and hopefully you find the family you're looking for.

                                                                    Also to add your mom sounds a lot like mine. She has narcissist personality disorder. Don't know if your mother is the same, but it's frustrating. I felt like my mom put herself before me especially when it meant the most. Again I hope you find what and who you're looking for.

                                                                    • Torchic 255
                                                                      Torchic 255  6 days back

                                                                      Thank you so much for sharing your story and your pain with us. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this to find out about your ancestry. As an Egyptian and a Coptic Christian, I hope that our shared culture and heritage can help you heal on your journey up ahead. I'll be following along on your journey. Sending love your way ❤️ and if you ever have questions, it looks like you have quiet a few Egyptian followers and we would love to help. ❤️❤️❤️

                                                                      • Katie Woodruff
                                                                        Katie Woodruff  7 days back

                                                                        I love DNA tests, my nephew is curious about his real father and he's known 1 man to be his father though not a very good one his entire life NOW if the man we truly believe is his father it would make him a cousin to us and his current grandmother instead so we don't really want to disrupt but he looks nothing like supposed dads family and actually resembles my mother in laws side more aka grandma, i think out of fear they don't check but honestly the man i believe is his father would've been an amazing parent had he been given the chance and knew certainly this child belonged to him but alas over 20 years later we question. I honestly think they should go for it, he will never stop being a grandchild just because of a test result and he will always be my nephew even if technically he ends up being a cousin. DNA is fascinating but we must also consider we just don't always pick up those traits HOWEVER what if you met this true biological father, what if it were a relationship that could blossom into something awesome, im sorry you have felt lost and there's nothing wrong with wanting to know just remember you are all you need to know in the end, maybe adopt some new holidays and dive into those other cultures you share blood with to feel closer to your newly found ancestry.

                                                                        • Elisa
                                                                          Elisa  1 weeks back

                                                                          Awww made me cry

                                                                          • Harley Quinn
                                                                            Harley Quinn  1 weeks back

                                                                            Why do you always put the crying in the preview? Its so unnecessarily dramatic and not constructuve

                                                                            • Sheila Reynolds
                                                                              Sheila Reynolds  1 weeks back

                                                                              its so painful to find out you've been betrayed and manipulated. Praying you find find peace as you find the truth.

                                                                              • perla hudson
                                                                                perla hudson  1 weeks back

                                                                                Sorry to say this but your mum sounds like a bitter woman. You need counseling indulging in self pity here and crying because your dad didn't want to be part of your life is not going to help you and your mom couldn't care any less about your feelings as she's made it clear to you. You need to accept it so you can start healing. there are thousands of people with similar stories like yours in the world. Be careful with Egyptians in Egypt they're too overly friendly and the majority are Muslims, I'm talking from experience, don't trust anyone specially not people from a Muslim foreign country like Egypt. Trust the people who really love you and care for you. You're a very beautiful woman God bless you.

                                                                                • lil egg
                                                                                  lil egg  1 weeks back

                                                                                  sometimes I doubt it as well cause my mother always jokes about the other guy that she met yeaaaars ago and my dad and him were fighting over her lmao
                                                                                  my mum kinda has a strange personality so..

                                                                                  • Kirstie Boyce
                                                                                    Kirstie Boyce  2 weeks back

                                                                                    Don't make excuses for your mother. You deserve better and she should've given it to you.

                                                                                    • Cathy Baldry
                                                                                      Cathy Baldry  2 weeks back

                                                                                      I think more people would be impressed with being part Egyptian than being part Jewish any day of the week. Lots of love and hugs you are gorgeous

                                                                                      • Ela Borat
                                                                                        Ela Borat  2 weeks back

                                                                                        Put in your file into Gedmatch.Might clarify few things.

                                                                                        • Nicole A
                                                                                          Nicole A  2 weeks back

                                                                                          I am so sorry this happened to you. You were disenfranchised and you deserve the truth

                                                                                          • UnAvis
                                                                                            UnAvis  2 weeks back

                                                                                            She probably did her best to raise you and your sister. Maybe she decided to protect you by not telling you the truth, or she ignored it (willingly or involuntarily). No one knows what were her reasons. Just know one thing, she raised you, sher loved you, she did the best she could at every moment she had to make a decision. Now go on your own journey, and let her live hers. Good luck beautiful soul ❤❤❤

                                                                                            • It's only Bannor
                                                                                              It's only Bannor  2 weeks back

                                                                                              You can exactly believe the results given from ancestry tests either. Just have his family member do a test and see if there is positive results

                                                                                              • ImisstheFührer
                                                                                                ImisstheFührer  2 weeks back

                                                                                                Austria is Not Eastern Europe. It’s right below Germany, geographically Central Europe, otherwise considered part of Western Europe.

                                                                                                • nargleish
                                                                                                  nargleish  2 weeks back

                                                                                                  Your description of your mom is exactly what I would say about mine. Can’t say I have the same experience about finding out your father is not who you think it is. But I just wanted to leave a comment saying I can understand a mother like yours. It’s SO difficult. I hope you can find whatever it is your looking for.